Wow. It's been awhile since I have sat down and posted. I have had a busy couple of weeks. I am looking forward to the month of October! September hasn't been a great weight loss month for me, still going down on the scales and that's the important part, because it's moving in the right direction! But.....it's been slow!
I have a great weight loss support friend, and she has recently lost over 50 pounds, I am so proud of her, she has remained focused along her journey and is very motivating to me. I get very frustrated because I am not a patient person. She has worked on this since Jan. so it hasn't been overnight for her either but all of a sudden, she is def. feeling her success.
I have a blog I read about a guy who has recently lost 270 lbs, and he's an awesome writer. So today I am going to share what I learned off his blog, because I think this is what causes me to slide in the wrong direction so many times. I have to understand what triggers the behavior and how to manage it. I found this incredibly helpful This is what Sean says:
Staying focused is sometimes a very difficult thing to do. Most of us know what our triggers are. Triggers are situations and circumstances that put us at our weakest point in terms of staying on track. My trigger is stress. Any and all stress. Job stress, financial stress, family stress. It all adds up to a big mess of stress. And I'm sure you've heard people say...”I'm an emotional eater”...aren't most of us? I'm not just an emotional eater, I'm also a celebratory eater and a spur of the moment craving eater, I'm a “ah, the heck with it, give me the double decker with extra cheese and bacon” eater. Identifying your triggers is important. What makes me feel the urge to eat a couple thousand calories in double cheeseburgers and ice cream? Stress. I identified this trigger several years ago. And for the longest time I've used that as an excuse not to get busy with this mission. “I'm just too stressed out to get started right now”...Or, after a successful couple of days, totally going nuts on a half gallon of tin roof sundae, then thinking...”I can't do this right now because things are just too stressful. So recently I had to ask myself: If I'm waiting to have a stress free life before I start losing this weight, will I ever start?
The answer was no. We all have stress in some form. Stress is part of daily life for most people. Stress can be so many different things. So I realized that if I were waiting for my world to be completely perfect and stress free, then I would never, ever, ever start this. We have to adjust our strategy in the face of our triggers. We have to stop long enough to ask ourselves, will eating this really improve my situation? What can I do besides over-eat that will help me deal with this issue? I've turned to food for comfort for so long, that I know how incredibly difficult this can be. My smart and beautiful wife mentioned taking one day at a time in a comment she left on yesterdays blog, and you know what? She's so right. One day at a time I deal with cravings, one day at a time I deal with triggers, one day at a time I succeed. Eventually all of those “one day at a times” will add up to an amazing result.
That's a very good information because I can so relate to what he said, and he's right, you deal with it one day at a time and you learn new habbits.
Christy mentioned the other day to me, it's about learning to use food for nutrition purpose, not for entertainment of comfort. You have to totally train yourself to think differently about food and have a different relationship with the food.
Yep, I can do this!! I am doing this, and October is going to be a great month. The weather is cooler, the leaves are turning colors, I love this time of the year! I am blessed beyond measure with a wonderful family! I want to be around along time to enjoy my family! A healthier lifestyle is a must, and it's getting easier everyday! So we take this advice: Take twice as long to eat half as much!
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
Sunday, September 12, 2010
Fall....Football.....Fair!!
Fall is approaching, I love the change of season. I'm not sure that I honestly have a favorite, I just know I am always ready for the change........ Winter to Spring, Spring to Summer, Summer to Fall, Fall to Winter, just love the changes in the weather. Fall is a nice relief from the HOT SUMMER! Fall brings football and the fair. Cooler air, and the beautiful leaves that change colors. It also starts setting the mood for the upcoming holidays. Halloween, Thanksgiving and Christmas will soon be upon us. All of these bring us together with Family and what do we do? GATHER AND EAT!!!!
I have set goals for myself and have to admit, I didn't make it last month. I have lost 12 pounds, but that didn't meet my goal for my 1st month. I am getting geared up tonight for this next month because I will meet my goal this next month! Hayden and I have decided we will start going bike riding in the evening. He is pretty excited, but just thinking about it makes my hiney ache. LOL.
I was at Walmart on Saturday, and guess what greets you just inside the door? Halloween Candy of course!!! My favorite would be Brachs Candy Corn. I wish I didn't like it.....but I love it! It would be great if I could buy a bag and enjoy a couple little pieces a day. But.......NO, it never works out that way!!! I have to accept the fact that I can't have it at my house....period! I am very impressed by people that are able to have dishes of candy like that sitting around for guests or children and are able to not eat any of it. I don't fall in the category of people ....so I won't even go down that isle. I just wish they wouldn't make it so convenient in walmart. LOL! I found myself trying to reason why I needed to buy just one bag of candy corn, but I did leave without any in my basket......"Thank you Lord for giving the strength...as I know it wasn't me!"
I honestly don't have strength alone to fight this weight loss battle. and I know I need to be in daily prayer to be able to make it past each obstacle and temptation.
Our preacher today spoke about how we should pray, having complete faith that our prayers will be answered. We stand strong on faith, already knowing it is God's will for our life. We shouldn't pray hoping it is God's will and hoping we will receive. But as we pray. we stand in our faith expecting and knowing that your prayer will be answered. Of course its Gods will for me to lose weight! It's God's will for us to be healthy! A light came on today for me....Wow. I need to pray with Faith, expecting and knowing its God's will in my life and of course he will give me the strength that I need to overcome any temptations. But you have to pray expecting to receive. It was a sermon that I needed...isn't it awesome how God always knows what we need? This will be a great month!
“And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he heareth us: And if we know that he hear us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of him.” – 1 John 5:14-15
I have set goals for myself and have to admit, I didn't make it last month. I have lost 12 pounds, but that didn't meet my goal for my 1st month. I am getting geared up tonight for this next month because I will meet my goal this next month! Hayden and I have decided we will start going bike riding in the evening. He is pretty excited, but just thinking about it makes my hiney ache. LOL.
I was at Walmart on Saturday, and guess what greets you just inside the door? Halloween Candy of course!!! My favorite would be Brachs Candy Corn. I wish I didn't like it.....but I love it! It would be great if I could buy a bag and enjoy a couple little pieces a day. But.......NO, it never works out that way!!! I have to accept the fact that I can't have it at my house....period! I am very impressed by people that are able to have dishes of candy like that sitting around for guests or children and are able to not eat any of it. I don't fall in the category of people ....so I won't even go down that isle. I just wish they wouldn't make it so convenient in walmart. LOL! I found myself trying to reason why I needed to buy just one bag of candy corn, but I did leave without any in my basket......"Thank you Lord for giving the strength...as I know it wasn't me!"
I honestly don't have strength alone to fight this weight loss battle. and I know I need to be in daily prayer to be able to make it past each obstacle and temptation.
Our preacher today spoke about how we should pray, having complete faith that our prayers will be answered. We stand strong on faith, already knowing it is God's will for our life. We shouldn't pray hoping it is God's will and hoping we will receive. But as we pray. we stand in our faith expecting and knowing that your prayer will be answered. Of course its Gods will for me to lose weight! It's God's will for us to be healthy! A light came on today for me....Wow. I need to pray with Faith, expecting and knowing its God's will in my life and of course he will give me the strength that I need to overcome any temptations. But you have to pray expecting to receive. It was a sermon that I needed...isn't it awesome how God always knows what we need? This will be a great month!
“And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he heareth us: And if we know that he hear us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of him.” – 1 John 5:14-15
Friday, September 3, 2010
It's so much more than a football game!!
Yesterday morning as Clayton walks out of his bedroom, all dressed for "Game Day", with his football jersey on, our 3 year old jumps off the coach in awe..... WOW! He knows what this is about, first football game of the season and Cayden is so excited he can't wait, he loves football! His brother is a Buccaneer football player and he gets to go to his game tonight. He is pumped. He jumps into Clayton's arms, talking up a storm, he can't wait for the game. Clayton starts laughing, he says mom, I have never seen a kid like football so much. He says are you gonna be a Buccaneer some day? Cayden says, "YES", I am gonna play football too. Cayden had to put his Buc shirt on, he couldn't wait until after daycare, nope we had to change clothes, right now, so he could be a football player too!!
After I dropped off Cayden at daycare, I thought, It wasn't long ago, seems like yesterday, we would drive by that football field and I can remember Clay wide eyed too, he was gonna be a Buccaneer football player someday. He loved watching those games when he was little, he couldn't wait to be a football player, not any football player, he was gonna be a Buccaneer. He talked about that for years. His dad was pretty excited too. Its so cute to hear little boys talk about their football dreams. Clayton has a big imagination and he definitely had big football dreams. I am not sure at what point he started not liking football, seems like it started in 7th grade. Looking back, I am not sure it was about football, but he definitely had decided he didn't want to play in 8th grade.
Kinda hard to watch a kid that wanted to be a Buccaneer so bad, and play on that field in high school decide he don't want to play before he even really got a chance to play.
So after not playing in 8th and 9th grade, Clay joins the team again his sophomore year. We were pretty excited too, he was gonna be a Buccaneer football player after all. As school started, Clay started to complain about football, how he didn't like it, and how he had made the wrong decision. We told him, its too late your not quiting this season, you will play, you signed up, we already bought the things you need. We have always said, you don't quit a sport after you sign up for the season! Week two of school, Clay texts me at work, he says, MOM, I talked to Mrs Spoon, (the school counselor) and she said I could switch over to Cross Country that its not too late, so I am gonna do that. I text him right back....Don't you do anything, I will pick you up at lunch today and we will talk. I picked him up and we went to lunch. Clay had some valid points, he admitted he joined to make his dad happy and he shouldn't have done that, he said I won't get to play mom I don't feel like I am part of the team, I am miserable. I hate going to school all day, knowing I am gonna have to go to football. (this was just like the first day of the second week of school, they had not started practice with full pads yet) Clay was really upset that day, I told him, NO WAY was he quitting this season, he needed to get tough, and try to make the best of it. I said it's more than football Clay, it is about commitment, being a team player, dedication and pushing yourself to limits physically when you don't think you have anything left. You will learn alot this year. Above all if you don't learn anything else, you will learn not to make a decision to please someone else..(meaning if he did make the decision to please his dad, it probley wasn't the best decision for him and since it was him that would have to live with it, he would learn to not make decisions to please other people). He begged me to talk to his dad about it and see what his dad would say. Ha Ha. I have been married to your dad for 20 years Clayton, I know exactly what your dad will say. We won't need to have this conversation with your dad, I am telling you myself, I don't support you quiting, you won't quit and you need to make the best of it. I told him I loved him and only wanted the best for him and dropped him off at school. After he got of the car, he slammed the door! I cried all the way back to work. Was I a terrible mom? Are we being too harsh? But i knew letting him quit was not the best decision. So I prayed for him, prayed he would learn from this experience, and prayed he would have a good year. Took several weeks, but it got better, he quit complaining, he didn't get that much playing time, but he seemed to fit in just fine, and became very excited as the team won Regional, and then on to State Playoffs and then on to WIN STATE, playing at OSU in Stillwater the State Game, winning the game 7 to 6. It was a dream of many high school boys to even make it to a State playoff high school football game. He has a 2009 Championship football Ring. How many kids get that opportunity? He was proud, he stuck it out and he did learn alot through the experience.
Junior year, He went through summer pride, again right before school, I'm not sure mom, football consumes your life for like 4 months. I said, Clay just play another year, and then if you don't want to play your senior year, we won't say a word to you. ok? He quickly agreed. Again, as a mom I just pray he learns through this experience. We have some awesome coaches here in our town, and Clay has alot of respect for the coaches as well. And I think this too makes a huge difference in the life lessons that can be learned by playing a sport in high school.
This year, Clay seems pretty excited about the season. He mumbles from time to time, about a hard practice, or about how tired he might be, but I can see a change in him and his attitude about it. He is proud to be a Buccaneer. Again, to me, its not about the game. And its not about football, it can be any sport. It's about learning to be a part of a team, dedication, hard work, pushing yourself to those limits and then watching your hard work pay off. How can you feel that accomplishment if you never drive yourself past that point where you think you can't, but then.....you find out that you can, and you did!
I was very surprised yesterday when we went to order his High school Letter Jacket and he told the lady he would be playing again next year, a total of 3 years in high school. I really didn't know if he would play again next year. I didn't say a word, but I thought, hmmm, wonder when he decided that!
As we sat in the rain last night, watching the Buccaneers play their first season game in Morrison, I was waiting to see if my son would get a chance on the field. (and he did!) I wasn't about to get up from those stands and miss it. We were going to be there to watch. He isn't on the first string Varsity team, but that doesn't matter. It makes no difference to me, and I wouldn't be prouder of him if he was the star quarterback than I am already of him right now. As I sat there in the rain, watching how excited he was for his team mates, how pumped up he was each time they scored, I couldn't have been prouder of my son. He's a team player! He understands it, he knows now its more than just about the game. Oh, he seems to really love the game now, don't get me wrong....but I know now, he has it figured out, its a much bigger lesson than just playing football. I am so glad he is playing football, living out his little boy dream of being a Buccaneer, and he may never be a starter on the varsity team, but his lesson in life he is learning through this experience is awesome. I have no doubt in my mind though, he is capable of being as good as he wants to be. My prayer this year is that he learns to go the extra mile and work just a little bit harder, pushing himself to be the best he can, and not settling for less than what he is capable of achieving.
We have another son in 7th grade, and he's not really liking football this year either. (what is it about mid high football that so many boys decide they don't want to play?) I think its the changes going on in their bodies and peer pressure have alot to do with it. All I know is....we have been down this road Hayden, your getting ready to learn some valuable life lessons and I am thinking right now, it's not gonna be a choice.....for awhile longer anyway, not because I love football. It's so much more than a football game!
I mention this story on my Blog because.....the road to our goals and dreams is not always easy. It takes dedication, determination and not giving up! Not quitting when things get rough. Even when you think you can't, you have to try harder.....make some adjustments and keep going! That's where I am today in my battle with weight loss that I will win! I want to not only do this for myself but to show my boys, there is nothing you can't overcome. The rewards in exchange for accomplishment in those things you have to really strive hard for are so awesome...I am not stopping, its a lifestyle change and I will get to my goal weight. I am not quiting in the middle of my season.....quitters never accomplish what they set out to do! If I am not going to accept my boys being quitters, why would I accept that for myself?
After I dropped off Cayden at daycare, I thought, It wasn't long ago, seems like yesterday, we would drive by that football field and I can remember Clay wide eyed too, he was gonna be a Buccaneer football player someday. He loved watching those games when he was little, he couldn't wait to be a football player, not any football player, he was gonna be a Buccaneer. He talked about that for years. His dad was pretty excited too. Its so cute to hear little boys talk about their football dreams. Clayton has a big imagination and he definitely had big football dreams. I am not sure at what point he started not liking football, seems like it started in 7th grade. Looking back, I am not sure it was about football, but he definitely had decided he didn't want to play in 8th grade.
Kinda hard to watch a kid that wanted to be a Buccaneer so bad, and play on that field in high school decide he don't want to play before he even really got a chance to play.
So after not playing in 8th and 9th grade, Clay joins the team again his sophomore year. We were pretty excited too, he was gonna be a Buccaneer football player after all. As school started, Clay started to complain about football, how he didn't like it, and how he had made the wrong decision. We told him, its too late your not quiting this season, you will play, you signed up, we already bought the things you need. We have always said, you don't quit a sport after you sign up for the season! Week two of school, Clay texts me at work, he says, MOM, I talked to Mrs Spoon, (the school counselor) and she said I could switch over to Cross Country that its not too late, so I am gonna do that. I text him right back....Don't you do anything, I will pick you up at lunch today and we will talk. I picked him up and we went to lunch. Clay had some valid points, he admitted he joined to make his dad happy and he shouldn't have done that, he said I won't get to play mom I don't feel like I am part of the team, I am miserable. I hate going to school all day, knowing I am gonna have to go to football. (this was just like the first day of the second week of school, they had not started practice with full pads yet) Clay was really upset that day, I told him, NO WAY was he quitting this season, he needed to get tough, and try to make the best of it. I said it's more than football Clay, it is about commitment, being a team player, dedication and pushing yourself to limits physically when you don't think you have anything left. You will learn alot this year. Above all if you don't learn anything else, you will learn not to make a decision to please someone else..(meaning if he did make the decision to please his dad, it probley wasn't the best decision for him and since it was him that would have to live with it, he would learn to not make decisions to please other people). He begged me to talk to his dad about it and see what his dad would say. Ha Ha. I have been married to your dad for 20 years Clayton, I know exactly what your dad will say. We won't need to have this conversation with your dad, I am telling you myself, I don't support you quiting, you won't quit and you need to make the best of it. I told him I loved him and only wanted the best for him and dropped him off at school. After he got of the car, he slammed the door! I cried all the way back to work. Was I a terrible mom? Are we being too harsh? But i knew letting him quit was not the best decision. So I prayed for him, prayed he would learn from this experience, and prayed he would have a good year. Took several weeks, but it got better, he quit complaining, he didn't get that much playing time, but he seemed to fit in just fine, and became very excited as the team won Regional, and then on to State Playoffs and then on to WIN STATE, playing at OSU in Stillwater the State Game, winning the game 7 to 6. It was a dream of many high school boys to even make it to a State playoff high school football game. He has a 2009 Championship football Ring. How many kids get that opportunity? He was proud, he stuck it out and he did learn alot through the experience.
Junior year, He went through summer pride, again right before school, I'm not sure mom, football consumes your life for like 4 months. I said, Clay just play another year, and then if you don't want to play your senior year, we won't say a word to you. ok? He quickly agreed. Again, as a mom I just pray he learns through this experience. We have some awesome coaches here in our town, and Clay has alot of respect for the coaches as well. And I think this too makes a huge difference in the life lessons that can be learned by playing a sport in high school.
This year, Clay seems pretty excited about the season. He mumbles from time to time, about a hard practice, or about how tired he might be, but I can see a change in him and his attitude about it. He is proud to be a Buccaneer. Again, to me, its not about the game. And its not about football, it can be any sport. It's about learning to be a part of a team, dedication, hard work, pushing yourself to those limits and then watching your hard work pay off. How can you feel that accomplishment if you never drive yourself past that point where you think you can't, but then.....you find out that you can, and you did!
I was very surprised yesterday when we went to order his High school Letter Jacket and he told the lady he would be playing again next year, a total of 3 years in high school. I really didn't know if he would play again next year. I didn't say a word, but I thought, hmmm, wonder when he decided that!
As we sat in the rain last night, watching the Buccaneers play their first season game in Morrison, I was waiting to see if my son would get a chance on the field. (and he did!) I wasn't about to get up from those stands and miss it. We were going to be there to watch. He isn't on the first string Varsity team, but that doesn't matter. It makes no difference to me, and I wouldn't be prouder of him if he was the star quarterback than I am already of him right now. As I sat there in the rain, watching how excited he was for his team mates, how pumped up he was each time they scored, I couldn't have been prouder of my son. He's a team player! He understands it, he knows now its more than just about the game. Oh, he seems to really love the game now, don't get me wrong....but I know now, he has it figured out, its a much bigger lesson than just playing football. I am so glad he is playing football, living out his little boy dream of being a Buccaneer, and he may never be a starter on the varsity team, but his lesson in life he is learning through this experience is awesome. I have no doubt in my mind though, he is capable of being as good as he wants to be. My prayer this year is that he learns to go the extra mile and work just a little bit harder, pushing himself to be the best he can, and not settling for less than what he is capable of achieving.
We have another son in 7th grade, and he's not really liking football this year either. (what is it about mid high football that so many boys decide they don't want to play?) I think its the changes going on in their bodies and peer pressure have alot to do with it. All I know is....we have been down this road Hayden, your getting ready to learn some valuable life lessons and I am thinking right now, it's not gonna be a choice.....for awhile longer anyway, not because I love football. It's so much more than a football game!
I mention this story on my Blog because.....the road to our goals and dreams is not always easy. It takes dedication, determination and not giving up! Not quitting when things get rough. Even when you think you can't, you have to try harder.....make some adjustments and keep going! That's where I am today in my battle with weight loss that I will win! I want to not only do this for myself but to show my boys, there is nothing you can't overcome. The rewards in exchange for accomplishment in those things you have to really strive hard for are so awesome...I am not stopping, its a lifestyle change and I will get to my goal weight. I am not quiting in the middle of my season.....quitters never accomplish what they set out to do! If I am not going to accept my boys being quitters, why would I accept that for myself?
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
It's a Busy Life!
Trying to stay focused and keeping on track, while living in a fast paced society is not easy!! Have had a really busy week this week, tomorrow is already Thursday, that's my Friday..Thank Goodness! So approaching a 4 day weekend, and I am so ready for things to slow down a little bit. I am feeling accomplished though, I have stuck with healthier choices when eating out, and have kept up the walking in the mornings. I love my morning walks, but am so ready for some cooler weather, this morning was "HUMID" and Yuck, and that was at 5:40 a.m. I am so looking forward to "Hoodie Weather".
Good news is, 9 pounds are gone...so one more pound and I can say, 10 pounds. Then I can start over and lose another 10 pounds, etc etc. Sounds better to me to lose sets of 10 pounds. LOL!
Today is my husbands birthday, he and my two oldest boys are "Dove Hunting" this evening. So I asked him what he would like for dinner. His response was, anything is fine, you could just go by the grocery store and grab some Tony's pizza and cook those tonight, it will be late when we get in. Yeah! I got off that one easy. I went to the grocery store, purchased the pizza, and even went the extra mile and bought him a PepperRidge Farms German Chocolate Cake. He loves that cake. I can easily pass up that cake...and the pizza too for that matter. So Pizza and cake are ready for the boys when they get home. I had Cheerios for dinner tonight, and I am so happy he was that easy to please tonight. We have a football game in Morrison tomorrow evening, and we will head that direction as soon as I get off work, I am excited. Buccaneer Football....Fun Times!! Football, Fall, Cooler Weather, and the Holidays!!! Yes....Tis the Season. Also I am excited because as each month goes by, and I lose another set of 10 pounds, I know that these sets of 10 will add up before you know it! Yippee, I can smell Success!!!
Good news is, 9 pounds are gone...so one more pound and I can say, 10 pounds. Then I can start over and lose another 10 pounds, etc etc. Sounds better to me to lose sets of 10 pounds. LOL!
Today is my husbands birthday, he and my two oldest boys are "Dove Hunting" this evening. So I asked him what he would like for dinner. His response was, anything is fine, you could just go by the grocery store and grab some Tony's pizza and cook those tonight, it will be late when we get in. Yeah! I got off that one easy. I went to the grocery store, purchased the pizza, and even went the extra mile and bought him a PepperRidge Farms German Chocolate Cake. He loves that cake. I can easily pass up that cake...and the pizza too for that matter. So Pizza and cake are ready for the boys when they get home. I had Cheerios for dinner tonight, and I am so happy he was that easy to please tonight. We have a football game in Morrison tomorrow evening, and we will head that direction as soon as I get off work, I am excited. Buccaneer Football....Fun Times!! Football, Fall, Cooler Weather, and the Holidays!!! Yes....Tis the Season. Also I am excited because as each month goes by, and I lose another set of 10 pounds, I know that these sets of 10 will add up before you know it! Yippee, I can smell Success!!!
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